Yesterday I got to end my day with the biggest smile on my face. I spoke to my wonderful ex, Dag- who I lived with in London and shared our dog Nike with. It’s been little over a year ago since we broke up. And although it hasn’t been easy for either of us. We have both moved on, met two new wonderful partners and yet managed to land a relationship that is just as strong and warm as it was when we were together. You see, we were the bestest of friends. We adored each other, kind of like siblings do. But when it came to love, I think we confused it with being IN LOVE and LOVING each other. You know that passion that needs to exist in order for your head to go all light headed and the butterflies to rush through your whole body. Well we didn’t have that. We had alot of respect and laughter and we shared all kinds of moments and sides with each other. So to sum it up- we were amazing best friends, but not lovers. Today, we both have found our lovers and we have found ourselves back to what we were, best friends. Out of all the friends I have had through my life, he has always been the most special one. without a doubt. And after this backstabbing year from all kinda of people, especially from people who have liked to call us, “friends”, I have learned that you should really take care of the ones you have, the real ones. Worship them for everything they are and celebrate the friendship you have.
Dag, I adore you more than words will ever be able to explain. To know that you are happy with an amazing new girl, who seems nothing but perfect. Makes me whole. I really needed to hear that yesterday and I would be lying if I didn’t say that I miss you. I miss you so much. Not in the boyfriend kind of way, but in the most beautiful friend kind of way. You’re amazing. And you make everyone’s life around you amazing. And I hope you will continue to live a life full of life, love and laughter with Elodie.
I can’t wait to see you and our baby Nike in London very soon.
There is no point in hating your ex. Not that Dag and I ever did. But I know most people end up doing it, most people just stop speaking and say hurtful things to one and other. Not once throughout this year have we ever said anything without respect. And that’s why we are here today. Even through the hard times, we have respected each other and the life we had together for the 4 years we were together. I don’t know, maybe my ex is special. But I just want everyone to remind themselves, that you spent so much time with one person and you both shaped each other into the people you are today. Why would you throw away everything you built, just because you are no longer together?