I wanted to dedicate this post to Ebba Barkenbom, not just a “birth photographer” but one of my newest friends whom I’ve fallen completely head over heels for. Ebba approached me at a Galleria here in a Stockholm a few months back. It took a second for me to like her. And a coffee to absolutely love her. She was so warm, genuine and dedicated from the very first meeting. When she told me about what she does, I thought it must be the most amazing job in the world, but I was hesitant to the thought of doing it myself. I don’t know why actually. I think it was of the idea of letting someone into the most sacred space and moment in life. But after meeting with her, I knew I had to do it.
We have pictures from our weddings, graduations, and all of the hundred vacations we go on. So why wouldn’t I want to capture the biggest and most life changing moment of my life- the second I meet my son. The second I become a mom. As soon as I saw the other photos she had taken, I knew I wanted the same. Not to share on social media, but to have for the future to look back on. Show Maddox. A sacred memory to go back to on rainy days.
Now, after having it done, I am soooo grateful I decided to do it, and managed to convince Oscar to agree to it. Both Oscar and I are very private that way. Our bubble is very much ours. And not a lot of people get to be apart of it. So sharing the birth of our first child with someone else, wasn’t an easy one to convince. But Oscar agrees with me on one thing today:
Having Ebba there only made it better. Not because of the photos, but because it was her.
I knew I also wanted photos from the actual labour and not just the delivery, so she was there for big chunks of the time. Of course, she wasn’t there the entire 30+ hour journey. But she was there for the important moments. And I didn’t think about her being there at all taking photos. Not once, not even for a second.
As you can see in the photos, I had to have a cesarean after 30 hours of extreme intense contractions, because he was facing the other way. I was so devastated when I got the news because I was so pumped and ready to go on for another 30h if I had to. And Ebba captured that moment when I turned to Oscar. And even that moment I’m happy I got in a photo. Because it symbolises our relationship and partnership so much.
So if you are about to give birth. I couldn’t recommend it more than I have. It was an incredible experience bringing Maddox to the world and I will forever have these photos to take me back to these hours. Yes, it was long but it was sooooo powerful and I don’t think you can ever relive anything like it. If you have any questions, feel free to write me. Or better yet! Meet Ebba and she will explain everything. And you will fall in love with her, just like everyone does!